Don’t give negative people power over your heart
It’s too easy to let negative people interfere with our diet and fitness plans. How many times have you been upset, sad, angry, or depressed, and suddenly didn’t make time to work out or take the time to plan a healthy meal? How many times has someone else’s negativity curdled your motivation or willingness to take care of you?
I have been guilty of it. Emotion eating has always been the biggest reason I gained back weight or found it difficult to lose weight in the first place.
I realized something last year, however, during a year with more pain than any other, when everything was turned upside down and backward and shook up like a swirling water globe. I discovered that the hearts of some people are angelic and bottomless, and my true friends rose to the top like heroes. And I discovered that those with empty hearts sank dismally, pitifully, shamefully lower than ever.
Allowing negative, poisonous people to ruin your efforts, to throw you off track, is like inviting them into your mind, your heart, offering them a seat at the head of your dining room table and letting them tell you how to feel, how to act. It’s giving them far more power over you than they ever deserve. It’s giving up on yourself and giving them what they want: dragging you down with them. It’s celebrating their ickiness and turning your back on your goals and dreams.
I refuse. No matter what happens, I won’t let people like that destroy my accomplishments or my future dreams. It’s a shame they cannot let go of their extra weight, their greedy and jealous baggage, but that is their issue to wrestle and resolve.
As for me, I rise above their nonsense, and I look upward instead of down. If they could stop choking on their own venom long enough to look around with an open heart, they would see my hand extended to help pull them up as I pass them by.
“Hatred paralyses life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
One of my favorite quotes is “spend so much time improving yourself, you don’t have time to criticize others” I think it applies to those people no? I commend you for transcending past the craziness of others and staying committed to being a better person in life!
Giving up emotional leeches is one of the hardest things to do. They make you feel guilty, they make YOU feel like a terrible person.
But ya know what? Life isn’t a Faulkner novel. There is no reason to be around the negative people in life and I am happy to see that you have grown from your tough times.
~Renee’
A lot of people have asked me how I managed to lose so much weight during so much stress, and it’s hard to explain. I just decided I was better than the negativity, and I set out to prove it.
you are absolutely on point!! thanks for the positive words!
Awesome Blog!!!!!!!
Thanks for the motivational pep talk to start this week off. You are 100% on the mark and I am a slave to emotional eating so I really needed this kick!
Have a great week
Needed to see this today, thank you.
Wow! This blog was very inspirational! The sad part is I would use people’s negative energy to keep me from eating. It’s almost as if I would punish myself. SO SAD, but that’s in the past and I’m over that. I wish I had read this during those days. It would’ve been so beneficial to me. Thanks though I could still use these words today
Awesome blog and love the quote!
Thanks MJ!!
The best way to get even is to accomplish your goals and treat them with kindness. Maybe they will take your lead.
I 10th this!! Great blog and so true!
You always take the words right out of my mouth!
GREAT BLOG GIRLIE!
But then again, all your blogs are. That’s why when I see that wonder woman suit shining out in the list of blogs, I click on it every single time.
Huggggggggggggggggggs,
Shan
Thanks for the great comments at my site. Love your attitude and progress. Wow! You are smoking hot now!!
Thanks for this blog entry MJ–it fits in perfectly with what I’ve been dealing with, and helps more than you know. Hope you’re doing well…hugs!